School of Life

Is There an Alternative to Political Correctness?

Political correctness aims for some very nice results, but its means have a habit of upsetting a lot of people. Might there be an alternative to it? We think there is, and it’s called Politeness.

How To Be A Good Listener

Listening is something we’re very reluctant to do, not because we’re lazy, but because we have never actually been taught how to do it properly, in a way that can be interesting and rewarding for us.

What Infidelity Means

Being a victim of infidelity is one of the worst things that can befall us in love. One of the ways to come back from the harrowing experience is to ask what the real meaning of the infidelity might be.

What is Transference And Why It Matters

Transference is a psychological phenomenon whereby we ‘transfer’ a way of behaving from childhood into adulthood – in situations which don’t really warrant it. It’s a big cause of trouble in relationships.

Why ‘love’ is a useless word – and three alternatives

Many of our relationship problems stem from the emptiness of our vocabulary around our affectionate emotion. We have only the minimal word 'love'. Luckily, the Ancient Greeks had a more nuanced and complicated vocabulary that we can usefully borrow from

Why Polyamory (sadly) can't be for Everyone

Polyamory is an incredibly positive and fulfilling way of life for increasing numbers of people all over the world. At The School of Life, we applaud and celebrate this community. Sadly though, it seems polyamory won't work for everyone; especially those who can't stop being jealous - and naively equate this loving practice with sexual freewheeling.